Some people come into your life like a mirror—calm, steady, and full of love. They see the mess, the hurt, and the history… and choose to stay. Not to judge. Not to fix. But to love. To listen. To help you grow.
And yet—some of those people get hurt the most.
The One Who Showed Up with Love
I’ve been her. The girl who showed up with light. With patience. With softness. The one who believed that love could help. That kindness could calm the storm. That real care could reach someone through all their walls.
But not everyone is ready for that kind of love.
Some people are so used to chaos, peace feels uncomfortable. Some push away the very person trying to support them. And before you know it, the one who came with love is left picking up her own pieces.
Loving Someone Who Wasn’t Ready
There’s nothing wrong with being a healer. The world needs more people who feel deeply, who care fully, who give with open hearts. But there’s a difference between helping someone grow and losing yourself trying.
You can love someone and still walk away.
You can see someone’s potential and still accept their reality.
You can be full of light and still understand that not everyone wants to stand in the sun.
And when that happens—when your love is taken for granted, or worse, used against you—it hurts. Deeply. Because you weren’t just giving love. You were offering safety, support, and something real.
Choosing Yourself After the Hurt
Here’s the truth no one tells you: just because you were meant to help someone, doesn’t mean they’ll treat you right. And it doesn’t mean you were wrong for trying.
Sometimes, your love is a mirror—and what they see in it is too much for them to handle.
But your value doesn’t fade just because someone couldn’t see it. Your light doesn’t dim just because they looked away.
You were there for a reason. Maybe to teach. Maybe to plant a seed. Maybe to remind yourself that you deserve that same kind of love in return.
Final Thoughts from Lavanda Michelle
Imagine hurting the girl who only wanted to help.
Who listened when no one else did.
Who stayed a little longer than she should’ve.
Who loved with her whole heart.
But even more powerful?
Imagine being that girl—and still rising.
Still choosing to be kind. Still choosing love. Still healing. Still growing.
Not for them.
For you.
Because being someone’s peace shouldn’t cost you your own.
She Was There to Heal, Not to Break
Until next time, shine amongst the stars!
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