I don’t run a kingdom, but I do manage a small, sometimes chaotic empire: my home. And my secret weapon isn’t a crown; it’s a book often found on the shelves of CEOs, rappers, and power players: The 48 Laws of Power.
Now, before you imagine me plotting world domination at the breakfast table, let me clarify. I don’t use these laws to manipulate or play games. I use them for perspective, self-control, and strategic efficiency in the three most important arenas of my life: being a wife, a mom, and a content creator.
Sure, the book is controversial. Some say it’s ruthless, amoral, or cold. But for me, it’s just a framework for staying calm, thinking ahead, and acting with intention—even when the laundry piles up, the kids are screaming, or the blog inbox is full.
Section 1: The Wife and the Courtier (Navigating Marriage Dynamics)
Marriage isn’t a battlefield, but sometimes it feels like one. And that’s where a little strategic thinking helps.
Law 9: Win Through Your Actions, Never Through Argument
Instead of getting into a heated debate over chores or habits, I quietly adjust systems, take action, or demonstrate solutions. My husband notices the difference—and I don’t waste energy arguing.
Positive Spin: Demonstrate, don’t debate. Results speak louder than words, and trust me, they last longer than a shouted argument.
Law 16: Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
If he takes me for granted, I don’t nag. I carve out intentional space—maybe a weekend away or a “work from home” day alone.
Positive Spin: The scarcity principle of presence. Time apart makes our time together feel precious and cherished.
Law 34: Be Royal in Your Own Fashion
I set the tone for how I am treated. If I rush, apologize for my needs, or accept mediocrity, that’s exactly what I get back. I act with calm authority, set standards, and show the respect I expect.
Positive Spin: The Queen of Your Domain. When you value yourself, others follow suit.
Section 2: The Mom and the Strategist (Parenting and Home Management)
Managing kids and household chaos feels like juggling flaming swords. Strategic thinking saves my sanity.
Law 29: Plan All the Way to the End
Homework, chores, bedtime meltdowns—you name it. I plan backward from the ultimate goal (a calm bedtime, completed homework, happy kids) and anticipate possible setbacks.
Positive Spin: Anticipate the chaos. Strategy is not rigidity; it’s foresight that prevents small problems from becoming disasters.
Law 31: Control the Options
When my daughters are being picky or difficult, I offer two acceptable choices instead of open-ended options. “Green beans or carrots?” gives them a sense of power while keeping me in control.
Positive Spin: Empowerment with guardrails. Kids feel heard, but the outcome stays on track.
Law 4: Always Say Less Than Necessary
When a toddler or teen is melting down, silence is my secret weapon. Over-explaining gives them leverage. Waiting quietly often leads them to process the situation and comply without a battle.
Positive Spin: The power of the pause. Silence creates space for reflection, and surprisingly, it works more often than yelling.
Section 3: The Blogger and the Attention-Seeker (Content Creation)
Online visibility is a game of reputation, creativity, and strategy. And these laws work beautifully here.
Law 5: Guard Your Reputation With Your Life
Your blog’s credibility is everything. Consistency, quality, and staying true to your niche are non-negotiable. Never post something you regret.
Positive Spin: Consistency is credibility. Readers trust what you deliver and come back for more.
Law 6: Court Attention at All Costs
In a crowded digital world, visibility is essential. I apply this directly by creating visually arresting content, like high-impact 1080×1920 Pinterest Pins with words. They are little spectacles that stop the scroll and get noticed. Strong visuals, catchy titles, and occasionally bold opinions make all the difference.
Positive Spin: Be the spectacle. Bold, beautiful, intentional content draws eyes and engagement.
Law 25: Re-Create Yourself
The online world changes fast. I continuously evolve my niche, content style, and brand. I don’t cling to my “first blog identity.”
Positive Spin: Master of your brand. Intentional evolution keeps your audience engaged and shows your growth.
Conclusion: A Tool for Self-Mastery
At the end of the day, these laws are not about controlling anyone else. They are about managing my own reactions, staying calm, and acting with purpose.
The greatest power, I’ve realized, is self-mastery. Being strategic, patient, and intentional makes me a calmer wife, a smarter mom, and a more effective content creator. And that, in my chaotic little empire, feels like absolute power.
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Until next time, shine amongst the stars!
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My wife sent me this post and said, “This is how I think.” I finally get it now! I love how you made something deep feel relatable. Respect to you for putting it out there.
I help women start businesses, and your framework is something I’ll be sharing with them. It’s not just hustle, it’s heart and strategy. I love that you’re making power accessible in everyday life. This is how we build legacies.
I’m the techy in our house and usually leave the “emotional strategy” to my wife. But I read this post and realized how much I can learn too. We’re a team and this gave me tools to be a better partner. Thanks, Lavanda.
As a pastor’s wife, I often feel pressure to keep it all together. Your post reminded me that power isn’t about performance, it’s about being intentional and rooted. This gave me so much peace. God bless you, sister.
I just launched my blog and I’ve been overwhelmed by all the “do this, do that” advice online. Your blog felt like sitting with someone who actually gets it. I bookmarked this for future late-night panic moments. Thank you so much.