What skills and personality traits would you choose to impart on your child if you had a magic wand and could turn them into whatever kind of person you wanted them to be, with a simple wish?
No doubt you’d make them smart, capable, responsible, disciplined, optimistic, and maybe also generous and good-humored.
The thing is, as a parent, the actions you take in raising your child will automatically have a strong impact on how their personality develops down the line.
The world can be a hard and cruel place at times, so among all of the other good traits that you’ll want your child to have, you should also pay some thought to develop their resilience.
Here are some tips for helping your child to become more resilient.
Protect, but don’t overprotect
Every good parent out there wants their kids to grow into the kinds of people who can meet the world head-on, and be successful in whatever walk of life they choose to pursue.
At the same time, it’s natural for parents to want to protect and nurture their kids and shelter them from the dangers of the wider world.
There’s a balancing act between toughening your child up and protecting them, that needs to be struck. If things tilt too far in one direction or another, a parent can either risk coddling their child or crushing them under a mountain of excessive discipline.
Of course, reading a good childproofing guide and taking steps to ensure that your toddler isn’t going to have an accident around the home, is essential and responsible parenting.
At the same time, though — and particularly as your child gets older — you don’t want to be looking over their shoulder at every moment. If they scratch their knee playing in the garden, it’s not the end of the world, and they need to learn how to deal with small risks on their own.
Lead by example
It’s an old cliche that kids do what you do, not what you say, and there’s a lot of truth to that.
If you are constantly throwing emotional fits in front of your kids and are making it very clear that you’re not doing a good job of handling the stresses of life, it will be nothing other than hypocrisy to turn around and tell your kids to take things stoically.
Be the kind of person you want your kids to become. Lead by example.
Raise your child to hold themselves to a high standard, rather than constantly forcing your standards onto them
Kids obviously need rules and structure, but in the long run, you need to help them to develop into the kinds of people who hold themselves to a high standard, not just the kinds of people who follow orders well.
If you can successfully raise your child to have high standards for their own behavior, you help to prevent them from folding when the pressure of life builds up.
Try to offer incentives for good behavior at an early age, such as by giving lots of praise when your children act autonomously and with good moral character. What are your thoughts? Please share in the comments below. I really would love to know.
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