Hey friends, Lavanda Michelle here, and I’ve got a heavy but proud moment to share with you. Last night, my youngest daughter—Zaya—told me something that shook me to my core: she’s decided to take a break from college and join the National Guard. At first, I didn’t know how to feel. The mixture of fear and pride was overwhelming, and I’m still processing it all, but one thing is certain: I will support her no matter what.
The Moment It Hit Me
Zaya and I were sitting down to talk about her plans for the upcoming semester, and as she spoke, I could feel the weight of her words. She shared her decision calmly and confidently, as though she had been thinking about it for months, and in that moment, I was both shocked and proud.
As a mom, it’s natural to want your children to be safe and to follow a more traditional path in life—especially when they’re so young. Zaya had always been the one who was more independent, more certain of her decisions. But this was different. She wasn’t just making a decision for herself; she was making a life-changing choice, one that would have profound effects on her future and ours.
Fear for Her Safety
Let’s be real—my first instinct as a mom was fear. Fear for her safety. Fear of the unknown. Fear of all the what-ifs that come with joining the National Guard. I’m sure I’m not the only one who feels this way when their child is about to embark on a path that involves potential danger. I can’t help but worry about her, about what she’ll face, about what risks she may encounter.
As a parent, it’s hard to accept that your children are growing up and making decisions that don’t align with your own comfort zones. But then, I had to take a deep breath and remind myself that this is her journey. She’s an adult now, capable of making decisions that will shape her life. And despite the fear, I trust her judgment.
Zaya’s National Guard Service and My Growing Concerns for Her Safety
Now that my daughter Zaya has joined the National Guard, her safety is constantly on my mind. It reminds me of two true crime cases that left a lasting impact on me.
The Case of Denisha Montgomery: A Tragic Assault by Fellow Soldiers
- One case that has haunted me is from the Mile Higher podcast, titled “She Was Attacked by a Fellow Soldier & Never Came Home: The Suspicious Death of Denisha Montgomery.” Denisha Montgomery-Smith was stationed in Wiesbaden, Germany, in 2022 when she tragically became the victim of an assault by her colleagues.
The Disappearance and Death of Vanessa Guillen: A Harrowing Tale of Military Violence
- The second case that weighs heavily on my heart is that of Vanessa Guillen, a young soldier who went missing from Fort Hood military base in 2020. Kendall Rae’s coverage of her story sheds light on the horrors Vanessa faced and the disturbing pattern of violence that too many women in the military endure.
The Ongoing Fight for Safety and Justice
- Both of these cases remind me of the dangers our loved ones can face, especially when they’re serving in the military, and it’s a constant reminder of how important it is to fight for safety and justice for those who serve.
Pride in Her Courage
After the initial shock wore off, a deep sense of pride filled my heart. Zaya has always been an independent, courageous soul, and seeing her take this big step in life made me realize how strong she truly is. Joining the National Guard is not an easy decision. It’s not the most conventional path, but it’s hers. It takes bravery to step away from college and make a commitment to serve, and I couldn’t be prouder of the strength and conviction she has to pursue something she believes in so deeply.
This is her chance to grow, to push herself beyond her limits, and to serve her country in a way that’s meaningful to her. And as a mom, I want nothing more than for her to live her truth, even if it’s a path that’s different from what I imagined.
Supporting Her No Matter What
At the end of the day, I am her biggest supporter. I may be filled with fear and uncertainty, but I will never let that overshadow the pride I feel for her. Zaya is following her heart, and that takes immense courage. I’ve always believed in empowering my daughters to follow their dreams, and this is no different.
She has a strong sense of purpose and a clear vision for her future, and I will stand beside her, cheering her on every step of the way. Even though it’s hard to let go and let her take this leap, I know it’s the right decision for her.
Zaya, I am so proud of you. I will support you, no matter where this journey takes you. I’m with you every step of the way, and I can’t wait to see the woman you continue to become.
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Until next time, shine amongst the stars!
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My youngest daughter, Zaya, shared her big decision last night—she’s taking a break from college to join the National Guard. Fear, pride, and unwavering support fill my heart. 💙 #ProudMom #Daughter #NationalGuard
Kudos to your daughter for joining the military – it’s such an honorable decision. As a parent, I can empathize with your concern for her and also missing her while she’s gone.
That is definitely big news and a big step! I can see how it would be a mix of excitement but also fears as well. Thanks for sharing this.. I think most moms can relate on some level as far as their child taking a big leap.
I would be nervous if either of boys wanted to join any kind of military service. I’m pretty pessimistic and knowing they were in potential danger would probably drive me crazy.
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