When It Feels Like It’s Just You Two
Hey there, sweet friend. It’s Lavanda Michelle, and today’s topic is one I don’t take lightly—staying married when it feels like the whole world is against your relationship.
Whether it’s your family, your friends, or even strangers on the internet, the lack of support can wear you down. I’ve been there too—hurt by side comments, silent judgment, or outright criticism. But I’m here to tell you: if you and your spouse are committed, you can thrive—even in a quiet storm.
Let me share some real, from-the-heart ways to keep your marriage strong, even when others don’t believe in it.
1. Make Each Other Your Safe Place
When the outside world feels cold, your marriage needs to be warm. Build a space between the two of you that feels safe, honest, and kind.
- Speak love, not just truth.
- Let your home be your hideaway from judgment.
- Pray together, cry together, and laugh together.
2. Protect Your Peace
You don’t owe everyone access to your marriage. Some people are just nosy, bitter, or stuck in their own pain.
- Set boundaries with people who bring drama.
- Don’t share your business with folks who don’t support your growth.
- If necessary, limit time with negative family members or “well-meaning” friends.
3. Seek Wise Counsel—Not Just Opinions
Not everyone who gives advice is qualified to do so. Look for voices that love marriage, not just gossip.
- A faith-based counselor or mentor couple can be a blessing.
- Read books or listen to podcasts that build your relationship.
- Avoid people who are quick to say “just leave.”
4. Stay on the Same Team
When the world feels against you, the two of you need to pull together—not apart.
- Talk often. Not just about bills and chores, but about your dreams, worries, and goals.
- Be quick to forgive. You don’t need to be perfect—you need to be present.
- Celebrate small wins together. Even surviving a hard week counts!
5. Play the Long Game
Every marriage hits rough patches. But lasting love is built over time, not just in good seasons.
- Remember why you chose each other.
- Focus on growth, not perfection.
- Stay hopeful. The people who doubt your marriage today might one day admire it.
Closing: Your Love Story Isn’t for Them Anyway
Listen, friend—your marriage doesn’t need an audience. It needs commitment. It needs two people who choose each other, over and over, no matter who claps or criticizes.
You are not alone. You are not failing. You are fighting, and that’s something to be proud of.
Keep showing up. Keep choosing love.
With grace and faith,
💜 Lavanda Michelle
How to Stay Married When No One Supports Your Marriage
Until next time, shine amongst the stars!
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Feeling alone in your marriage? 💔 You’re not. I’m sharing faith-filled ways to stay strong when no one supports your relationship. You can thrive together—even in silence. 💜 #marriageadvice #lovefight 👉
Yes to protecting your peace and setting boundaries. I really don’t have a great relationship with my in-laws and this is why we decided to move to a different city to protect my peace.
Hey again! 💖 Setting boundaries and protecting your peace is so important, especially when family dynamics get heavy. I respect your choice to create space for your well-being. You’re doing what’s best for YOU, and that’s powerful. 🙏🏽🌼
This sounds like such a hard situation for people. Thank you for breaking down these tips.
I have known a few couples in this situation and I know how difficult it was for them. Your advice is spot on. Sticking together and staying on the same page is of the utmost importance. This was a great read.
Thank you, Victoria. You’ve hit on such an important truth. Sticking together and being a united front is the most powerful thing a couple can do. It’s what makes a marriage strong and resilient, no matter what others say. I’m glad you found this post helpful! ❤️
I can imagine it can be a stressful and difficult experience if no one other than you and your partner support your marriage. Supporting and confiding in each other can help greatly.
You’ve hit on such an important point, Melanie. The two of you really become a team against the world when outside support is lacking. Leaning on each other and creating that safe space to confide in one another can make all the difference. That kind of unity is the greatest strength a marriage can have. Thanks for this. ❤️
It must be so hard when others don’t support your marriage. Some great tips for anyone who finds themselves in this situation x
You’re absolutely right, Rhian. It adds an extra layer of difficulty, for sure. So glad you found the tips helpful, that’s exactly why I wrote this post. I hope they can be a source of strength for anyone going through that. ❤️